Holding The Love Note

July 17th, 2009 . Posted in Overcoming Negativity Addiction | No Comments »
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Holding the Love Note is my favorite “vibeswitch” of all time to easily break the pattern of Negativity Addiction. It tends to work on every negativity addiction trigger, but especially if you feel any anger or hurt feelings. You can actually learn to use your feelings of anger and/or hurt feelings like a meditation bell, reminding you that it’s time to Hold the Love Note and imagine that your body is a HARP (I love the image of a harp per our conversation with Natalia Rose last night on feel it real radio).

Imagine that this harp is playing the note called “LOVE” for sixteen counts. (It’s really important to count out these sixteen counts in order to give your body enough time to introduce the happy emotional chemicals into your bloodstream that counteract the negativity addiction.)

The key is to begin practicing holding the love note the MOMENT you notice yourself going into anger or hurt. If you wait too long to do it, your body will release negative emotional chemicals and it will be more difficult to hold the love note.

If you can notice your anger and hurt right away, before your body is flooded with the chemicals of negativity, then Holding the Love Note will actually rewire your brain and body chemistry to releasing bliss chemicals, and everyone knows the feelings of love are the happiest chemicals the body can produce! That’s why everybody wants to be in love.

Can you imagine HABITUALLY feeling loving towards all beings because you have rewired your brain to do so?

It’s a very achievable goal if you practice Overcoming your Negativity Addiction.

So try it all day today. (All week, if you like. Your whole life preferably!)

Here’s How It Works.

The second you notice yourself going into any feelings of hurt or anger, immediately say to yourself:

“Love feels better than anger. Love feels better than hurt feelings. Love feels better than judgement. I am going to hold the love note.”

Then, imagine your body is a harp that is plucking a string called “LOVE” and you are slowly counting to sixteen, saying words that activate your Loving vibration.

1, 2, 3, Love, unconditional love, 4, 5, 6, Love everybody, serve everybody’s highest good 7, 8, 9, compassion for this person who is obviously suffering with their own negativity addiction. No one is ever angry or rude when they are in their joy. 10, 11, 12, I love everyone like a little child does 13, 14, 15, I love everyone like a sweet kitten or puppy does 16, I Love as a Soul, I am loving awareness.

So today, I invite you to practice with me. Any time you notice yourself getting even slightly upset at anyone for any reason, let that upset be like an egg timer or reminder bell or meditation gong, and say to yourself, “Oh, it’s time to hold the Love Note”.

I LOVE you all!

Denise

We have an 8 week Overcoming Negativity Addiction audio course that is going to be introduced to the marketplace this month that is about to revolutionize the vibrations of the world! If you are interested in pre ordering the Audio Course, you can do so by clicking here: Overcoming Negativity Addiction Program

We also have Overcoming Negativity Addiction Class every Monday night at 6pm PST.

Admitting You’re A Negativity Addict – The First Step To Freedom

July 17th, 2009 . Posted in Overcoming Negativity Addiction | No Comments »
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If you think you might be suffering from an addiction to negative thinking/feeling (take the quiz at to find out), admitting it to yourself is the first step to freeing yourself from your own inner turmoil. Coming clean that you can’t seem to stop thinking negatively or feeling negative emotions is the truth that will set you free and help you break the cycle, finding joy in your life once again.

Admit you have a problem…

Most people live their lives in one of two ways. They either go through their days being negative all the time but have no desire to stop indulging their own misery (or the misery of anyone who gets within a few feet of them). Or they are secretly negative, but walk around with a big smile on their face, pretending to be positive all the time. Both of these ways of dealing with the world are no fun and create a lot of suffering for everyone involved. When you admit you have an addiction to negative thinking and feeling, it’s like you immediately feel ten pounds lighter; because you stop with the pretending (which takes up a lot of unnecessary energy) and you give yourself a break, knowing that addictions ask for our compassion, not our self judgment.

An addiction is anything we feel we can’t stop doing or feel compulsively motivated to act on. If you feel anger on a chronic basis or fear or stress or overwhelm and you can’t seem stop (without the help of a glass of wine or a whole pepperoni pizza-which are what I call “sub-addictions” – addictions that are a result of the basic addiction to negative thinking and feeling), then the first thing you need to do is to admit it to yourself.

Take an honest look at your emotional life. Are you able to easily manage your emotional states or are you overwhelmed, on edge, fearful, depressed, stressed, or angry on a chronic basis and can’t seem to snap out of it?

Then admit it. At least to yourself.

Get Help…

The next step is to get help. But you can’t get help if you don’t admit that you are not able to manage your emotional states.

You can learn to manage your emotional states and reprogram your mind to feel habitually happy.  It’s quite a journey, rediscovering your inner bliss.  It’s not easy (at least at first) to break this addiction to chronic negative thinking, but it is the best thing you will ever do for yourself.

If you’d like to get a free download of our first class for Overcoming Negativity Addiction, click here.

The Relief Game

June 27th, 2009 . Posted in Law Of Attraction At Work | No Comments »
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Hey Lovely Soul Selves!

This is a game I came up with this morning after I realized that the feeling I get after meditating peacefully is the same feeling I get after I’ve gotten into the feeling place of having my desires already. What is that feeling?

Relief!

When you think about it, the emotional shift to higher frequencies is always one of relief. After you’ve cried,  you usually feel relief. After you speak your truth, you usually feel relief. After you’ve meditated quietly in nature, the negativity addiction dissipates because your mind gets quiet and you feel relief.

I truly believe that if our greatest dreams came true today, the first emotion we would feel would be RELIEF. And that relief is a sign that our vibrations are shifting higher and attracting more good to us.

Then, I thought. Well, why not make a game out of feeling relief right now?

So now I introduce to you…

THE RELIEF GAME

Here’s how it works.

Take a deep breath and say out loud: “I intend to play this game only for the feeling of relief it brings to me in my now.”

List ten areas of your life where you are feeling some amount of relief and then describe why it is somewhat relieving (talk only about the relief of it, the positive reasons).

For Example:

1. I am relieved that I am losing a little weight, my jeans are fitting more loosely.

This makes me feel relieved because I feel more confident in myself and I know it’s better for my health.

2. I am relieved that I made more money on my business the last two days in a row.

This makes me feel relieved because it’s nice to have that consistent feeling of money flowing in.

3. I am relieved because my daughter is feeling better.

This makes me feel relieved because she’s the apple of my eye and it makes me feel so happy when she feels good.

etc.

Find ANY area where you are feeling even a tad bit of relief and milk it!

As you do this game more and more, you will become very good at practicing the vibration of relief which ALWAYS means your vibrations are getting higher. Relief is one of the best feelings we as humans can feel. It’s that letting go of resistance and negativity addiction that sends us into happier vibrations and happier outcomes.

The more you focus on how relieved you already feel, the more reasons you will have to feel relief!

Love and Ahhhhhh,
Denise

Truly Feeling It Real

June 18th, 2009 . Posted in Law Of Attraction At Work | No Comments »
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Hello Radiant Beings of Light!

Well, I just had to share. I have recorded two personalized magnetizers for myself: One for Feel It Real becoming a #1 New York Times Bestseller and one for Becoming A Hero (my movie) winning a bunch of Oscars.

Because of how high I am getting from the Overcoming Negativity Addiction Class, I am buzzing pretty good all day long, but I’m starting to notice something spectacular.

Getting into the feelings of my desires is starting to be a Three Dimensional-multi-sensory experience where the details start playing themselves out without me trying to conjure them up. It’s like I’m actually THERE and it’s happening in real time and all of my senses are activated without me having to think of them.

And I noticed something really important. That, for ME, the feeling place almost always feels like HAPPY GRATEFUL TEARS OF JOY. I even started crying with total release and gratitude for both the book being a #1 NYT bestseller and my film winning Oscars.

This crying grateful tears feeling (which is what I will call it) was the EXACT same feeling I had the three weeks leading up to getting my book deal with Simon and Schuster. I was crying so much with gratitude before there was even a clue that I had the deal, that Andrew thought I had gone off the deep end. There was no book deal in sight. But I’m feeling it again.

It starts to feel like you can’t tell the difference between what has happened and what is happening.

For me, getting into the feeling place of having those big dreams come true TRULY feels like weepy gratitude a deep and profound sense of gratefulness to the Universe, to everyone involved, to LIFE!

It’s funny because there are many times where I’ll TRY to conjure the feelings of havingness and I’ll get buzzing and feeling good, sometimes it feels like effort, but it’s not the same as this RELEASE feeling into weepy gratitude when I REALLY get into the havingness, receivingness, feeling place.

I described it to Andrew as it feeling like cracking an egg open of gooey love that covers you in this sense of sacred kindness. You feel just like the Universe gave you a big long hug and said, “I do see you down there, and I do love you so much, so here you go!!”

How about you? I’d love to hear what it is that you feel when you TRULY get into the feeling place of your desire as already here.

I am convinced that this Overcoming Negativity Addiction Class and protocol is enhancing my ability to feel it real because my dominant frequency is higher on a consistent basis throughout the day because I switch out of negativity the moment I notice it. Also, the Power Manifesting Class is really creating a deep sense that ANYTHING is possible.

Love you All,
Denise

PS-If you’d like to buy a Personalized Magnetizer,  send an email to info@denisecoates.com, describing in detail what your desire is. I believe we are charging $50 for them, but they are SO powerful! You’ll fill out a questionnaire that describes your specific desire and then we’ll create your Magnetizer for you!

What's Going Right In My Life Game!

June 11th, 2009 . Posted in Law Of Attraction At Work | No Comments »
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Here’s how it works:

Every morning before you get out of bed, ask yourself the following question:

“What is going right in my life right now?”

Think of twenty things and speak each of them out loud. Don’t get out of bed until you have listed all twenty things.

Do this for thirty days. The answers could be something as simple as “I have a bed to sleep on” or even “I woke up again today!”

By doing this exercise every day for thirty days, you will switch your dominant frequency  to being someone who appreciates the good in their life and notices what’s going well on a habitual basis. Focusing in this way before you get out of bed reprograms your subconscious mind as you are in a more receptive state to receive these messages when you are drowsy.

After these thirty days, you’ll have reprogrammed your brain to start each morning noticing more and more what is going right in your life. This clear signal of appreciation will attract more things going well for you and you will experience a life that flows more smoothly.

Love and Magic,
Denise

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